Saturday, December 14, 2019

Twelve Songs of Christmas, Day 2: We Wish You a Merry Christmas


Growing up one of the things we did every year was to make treats and take them to our neighbors. We spent hours in the kitchen stirring pots of caramels and at least as long cutting and wrapping them. Some years we also make cookies. One year we made homemade tootsie rolls.

After the making and wrapping was done, we’d pull on mittens and hats and coats and traipse up and down the roads of our neighborhood.

At each door, we’d break into song (eventually we were able to do four-part harmony – but in the beginning we were lucky if the song was recognizable…)

Smiles would appear and gratitude was often expressed as neighbors accepted our plate and good cheer.

Every year, this is the song we’d sing:

We wish you a Merry Christmas
We wish you a Merry Christmas
We wish you a Merry Christmas
And a happy New Year


Good tidings we bring
To you and your kin;
We wish you a Merry Christmas
And a happy New Year

And we meant those words – we knew good tidings, we wanted to share them. We wholeheartedly wished our neighbors and friends a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year through song and treats.

So even if I can't bring you a plate of goodies and sing to you, know I'm wishing you a Merry Christmas full of good cheer!

Friday, December 13, 2019

Twelve Songs of Christmas, Day 1: Christmas Shoes

Last year I had a vision of writing about lyrics from Christmas songs that inspired me for the twelve days leading up to Christmas. The days passed by and suddenly there were only six days until Christmas. But I did it anyway – a song a day.

This year, I’m getting my act together earlier and making this happen on the twelve days leading up to Christmas. For me, the song lyrics help in my quest to keep Christ at the center of Christmas – to remind me of the real meaning, to focus on giving and sharing of love and goodwill towards mankind.


“As we prepare for Christmas, shopping and decorating fill our days, while parties and renewing old friendships bring us excitement.

But always in the background—in the malls, in stores, on the radio and in churches—being sung by choices, children, and carolers is the music that serves to remind us of the reason for the season. 

Christmas songs are one of the oldest traditions of the holiday and these memorable sounds help recapture the true spirit of Christmas."

-The Sounds of Christmas, by Pam Griffin


This first song is a song I’ve heard described as “overplayed” by many people. It may be true. But it is also true that it is a song that I can rarely listen to without crying. Part of the reason is that it reminds me of how much we can learn from little children.

Here are some selected lyrics:


It was almost Christmas time, there I stood in another line
Tryin' to buy that last gift or two, not really in the Christmas mood
Standing right in front of me was a little boy waiting anxiously
Pacing 'round like little boys do
And in his hands he held a pair of shoes
His clothes were worn and old, he was dirty from head to toe
And when it came his time to pay
I couldn't believe what I heard him say


Sir, I want to buy these shoes for my mama, please
It's Christmas Eve and these shoes are just her size
Could you hurry, sir, daddy says there's not much time
You see she's been sick for quite a while
And I know these shoes would make her smile
And I want her to look beautiful if mama meets Jesus tonight


He counted pennies for what seemed like years
Then the cashier said, "son, there's not enough here"
He searched his pockets frantically
Then he turned and he looked at me

He said mama made Christmas good at our house
Though most years she just did without
Tell me Sir, what am I going to do,
Somehow I've got to buy her these Christmas shoes


So I laid the money down, I just had to help him out
And I'll never forget the look on his face when he said
Mama's gonna look so great

…

I knew I'd caught a glimpse of heaven's love
As he thanked me and ran out
I knew that God had sent that little boy
To remind me just what Christmas is all about

While on this earth, Christ spoke with and made time for children. And he chastised his disciples when they tried to send away little children that had been brought unto him:

Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

I’m grateful for children – for how they help keep the magic, and purpose, of Christmas front and center.

I’m also grateful for the reminder that we have a choice in how we look at things – we can stay like the person at the beginning of the song, noticing only how long the line is, the annoying (pacing) behavior of those around us, the amount of time it takes for others needs to be met (counting out of coins) – or we can look for the intent and love behind the actions of others.

The role of perception is highlighted in Merry and Bright by Debbie Macomber:
Parents stood with them [children] as the children squirmed. Jayson couldn’t imagine the nightmare of standing in line with a bunch of fussy kids. Mary, however, had exactly the opposite reaction.

“Aren’t the children adorable?”
…
“Look at those parents,” he commented. “They’re exhausted, the kids are fussy, and Santa looks like he’s completely worn out.”

“That’s what you see?” she asked, sounding shocked.

“You mean you don’t?”

“No!” She stopped in front of the window. “I see that little girl in the ballerina-style dress entertaining her little brother and telling him all about Santa and those two mothers chatting happily, sharing experiences and information. As for Santa, he’s the best. …”

Jayson paused, trying to see it through Mary’s eyes, and realized she was right.

My goal: see Christmas through the eyes of a child this season – full of wonder, excitement and love.

Monday, November 25, 2019

Casting Care Upon God


I too often find myself feeling sorry for myself. Seeing the success and good fortune of others and reading that as a sign that I can’t, or at least won’t, have success either.

One of my recurring fears is not that someone won’t love me, but that someone can’t love me.

In the light of day, while putting words on paper, most of me can see [or hope] that this is not true, or that this is a demon whispering in my ear.

But inside my head (where I apparently spend too much time), this feels real, inevitable, inescapable.

We all have good and evil inside us. We all have damaging thoughts and healing thoughts.

Someone has characterized these as wolves. And which wolf wins – the good or the bad?

The one we feed.

In church yesterday, my bishop shared a few comments at the end of our Sacrament meeting that got me thinking:


“We believe in a God of abundance.
But we live in a world of scarcity.”


It is true. If one person gets a specific job someone else can’t have that job. If one person gets a scholarship that money is not available for anyone else.

And that reality is true for other things as well, including dating.

But the abundance that God offers us is so much more than any of those things. We all can feel peace. We all have access to God’s love. We all have the benefit of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. We all have access to the guidance of the Holy Ghost. Every single person on earth, as much as we need, all at the same time, forever.

Wow.

That is certainly the wolf I want to feed.

So how do I access that abundance?

This morning I had one way come to my attention while reading in 1 Peter 5:6-7:


“Humble [yourself] therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: [Cast] all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”

I can’t keep it rolling around in my head, I have to cast my care upon God.

What first came to my mind was a visual of fishing with my grandpa. Using the proper flick of my wrist to send my fishing line singing through the air to plop in the water far away.

Thinking of that experience I also realized that it is not just about sending something away. That sending out is crucial, but what is beautiful is that you get something back. And God, our abundant God, is going to give us beautiful things when we are willing and able to cast our cares on him.

Things I want to cast away:

  • Negative thoughts
  • Envy of others good fortune
  • My tendency to dwell on my mistakes
  • Poor self-image

Even if I got nothing in return besides having less of that in my life, that would be pretty incredible!